Menstrual
Cycle (Cycle of Creativity or Cosmic Cycle) and basic nature of women –
Introducing women’s world to men to walk together happily
Once you hear menstrual cycle (the cycle
of creativity), you may think that this post is for women. Yes, it’s for women.
But I mainly write this for men to help them to walk in women’s world
confidently. As we all know menstrual cycle is a normal process in woman's
body. However it’s always a hidden topic. Many of teen girls and boys, and men
as well go through hard time in relationship due to lack of awareness in this
topic. Especially this lack of awareness affects the most intimate relationship
on this earth i.e., husband and wife. Many men are into menstruation, they like
to know more about it to understand the woman they date, to help their girlfriends
in schools, etc. But they are afraid to talk about it. It may be due to the
following reasons: 1. The society still considered it as a taboo. 2. Women
may not like to share or may get embarrassed. In many societies, women don’t
even talk about it to other women. Some women are extreme that they don’t
communicate even to their potential future guy or husband. Still the society or
women itself consider this sacred cycle as unclean, dirty or a curse. Most
mothers introduce the monthly cycle as a curse (e.g., you have to put up this
as a woman) to their daughters when they get their first cycle. But they don’t
realize that this one sentence makes them to be ashamed of their own sexuality
at that innocent age. Occasionally, some women like to share e.g., if guy
friends are calling out. But they are afraid to communicate it openly because
they think guys may not like to hear about it, guys can’t understand, etc.
Hence i am here to break that taboo and create a new bond between men and
women.
In this universe, everything
is rhythmic (cycle) e.g., life (birth to death), weather, planets
orbiting, sun revolving around earth, waxing and waning phases of moon and
women too. Women go through different phases of menstrual cycle. Men may also
go through cyclic hormonal changes, but may be without bleeding, who knows. I
have read that men also experience irritable male syndrome due to monthly hormonal
changes and male-menopause (andropause) around the age 45-55. If they pay attention
to their physical and emotional part, they can track their mood swings. (Its
just my view, but may not be true. Because I believe everything in this
universe is cyclic). Menstrual cycle is not just a physical process, it’s also
emotional. In general, women are more emotional than men. All their unhealed
emotions come up with during their cycle. Hence, their life and their moods are
revolving around their cycle. If women pay attention to these cyclic nature to
understand themselves and when you both communicate this cyclic event to feel
the bond created between you two, you can share a different level of intimacy
i.e., both of you start to speak each other’s language. It can almost solve all
misunderstanding between men and women. Menstrual cycle is a power or boon to
women. They are more intuitive during their bleeding time. It’s a new beginning
and the time to let go of all unwanted emotions. Miranda Gray and Dr. Christiane
Northrup are some of the best women's writer (I added the link at the sidebar).
To know more about the four phases on the emotional side, please go to these
links:
In short, the four phases of menstrual
cycles are
1. Menstrual phase (Reflective phase) (Day
1 to 6) (Winter) (Dark/New moon)
2. Follicular phase (Dynamic phase) (Day 7
-13) (Spring) (Waxing moon)
3. Ovulation phase (Expressive phase) (Day
14-20) (Summer) (Full moon)
4. Premenstrual phase (Creative phase)
(Day 21 - 28) (Autumn) (Waning moon)
Phase 1 or Week 1:
New beginning, new ideas, inwardly
focused, planting new seeds, death and rebirth, renewal, review, meditate,
having rest, do what you love, nature walk, red tent, draw or paint, be kind to
yourself, accepting, going with the flow, enjoying
Phase 2 or Week 2:
Concentration, expressing sexuality, full
of energy, excited, stamina, learning, beautifying yourself, logical thinking,
planning, independence, multi-tasking
Phase 3 or Week 3:
Supportive, empathy, want to let go of
unwanted emotions, communication, team work, relation to others
Phase 4 or Week 4:
Feel ready to let go and fully surrender,
less emotional availability, inspiration, identifying what you want next and
what you don’t want now, creative, intuitive
Above are the basic patterns women may
feel during different phases of their monthly cycle. Because many women don’t
listen to their physical/emotional needs because of busy schedule etc., they
don’t release their emotional baggage. Though they may like to slow down and
have rest, they push themselves to work due to society structure or to prove
they are not weak and equal to men. They just deny their internal voice without
awareness.
Apart from cyclic, everything in this
nature is dual as well. Birth and death, creation and destruction, good and
bad, dark and night, yin and yang (men and women), pain and pleasure, waxing
and waning, new moon and full moon etc. In this physical world, one can’t be
perceived without another. They are not opposite, but complementary. Please understand
that men and women are different from masculine and feminine. Masculine and
feminine are just qualities. There can be men who are in touch with their
feminine nature and women who are intimate with the masculine side. But both the
qualities have to be balanced to feel peace with yourself and in your
relationships.
Examples
of some feminine qualities:
receptive, creative, sensuality, intuitive, surrender, flow (cyclic/keep
changing), nurturing, patient, let go, empathy, patience, expressive,
vulnerable, gentle, compassion, allowing, be happy for others
Examples
of masculine qualities:
rational, independent, stable, protecting, determination, initiating, providing,
courage, decisive, endurance, confident, ambitious
Guys,
to give you little bit more idea of how women think, I write some basic nature
of women:
1. Women are emotional.
If something happens, they may react immediately. But it may last only few hours
or a day. (Very few percentage girls can use silence as a revenge).
2. Women cry easily for small problems
or keep talking about the problems just to reduce the intensity of pain, but not
to complain. So please don’t misunderstand it.
3. Almost no girl can take the silence
of a guy. If any problem (even mistakes made by girls), let them know directly
and politely. Soon they will accept their mistake and ask you sorry. They can
tolerate even if you burst out, but not the silence. They feel as if they are
not respected or ignored.
4. Sometimes they feel they are
indecisive. Many centuries, either father, brother, boyfriend or husband take
care of their needs. Please give them suggestion.
5. Just get to know their cycle. By
knowing it, you can know their health, their moods. Just before the period, if
they get irritated, you can tell them it’s due to emotional disturbance. Soon
they will understand because many girls are not even aware of it.
6. Don’t tease them with their cycle.
Empower them.
7. Especially first two days of their
cycle, they may need an hour to look into themselves. They like to have rest
and slow down their life. Most girls are taught that their cycles are curse,
not gender fare. All their past relationship problems, childhood trauma can
come up and manifest as physical pain. Try to be positive with them saying menstrual
cycle is powerful, connect with their feminine nature. Encourage them to see
their emotions or ask them to share with you if they want. In few months your
girl's emotional and physical pain will be almost reduced.
8. If they are physically comfortable or
willing, offer them to have intimacy with you. Sex may help to relieve from the
cramp.
9. The most simple way to touch your
woman’s heart is get them their feminine product. I know you may ask they can
buy for themselves. Women just like to test that you are masculine enough to buy
them their feminine products and your positive view towards feminine nature.
10. It is not true that girls/society
thinks guys are weak if they speak emotions. If any problem in relationship,
you want a change or you don’t like some aspect of your partner or their life
style, be open to them politely. If you hide it in your heart, they will get
confused. Open and honest communication is the key for relationship.
11. If small fight or misunderstanding,
just hug them. They become usual immediately. Girls often love to be kissed,
hugged or cuddle if they are disturbed.
12. Talk about your physical, emotional,
sexual needs directly, instead of expecting from heart.
13. If any problem, try to know their
childhood and past. Most of the problems come from predetermined idea from their
father or other guys in their life.
14. Girls have no idea of your certain
behaviour. You need to look at your own emotions sometimes. Tell them openly
why you behaved in certain way for a situation (if any problem). If they know
the reason behind your reaction, it’s easy for them to know you. Emotionally
helping each other is the key.
Note
to women about the fundamental reason for the behaviour of today’s men:
Dear Women,
You don’t need to change yourself like a
man to survive in this society, unless it’s your authentic self. Do what you
love. Most men fall in love with your feminine nature. Sometimes men don’t
have touch with their emotions. For many centuries they involved in war (soul
has the memory of previous lives). The society also expects them to be strong
and not to speak their emotions (considered as a sign of weakness). Sometimes
they may freak out with blood (for men seeing blood is related to disease or
accident), they may not involve in your cycle. But now they put much effort to
know you better, to involve in child rearing, household works, etc. They start
to access their feminine qualities. They require time to transform themselves.
Be kind to them.
Gathering with other women and sharing
your experiences can provide you profound healing. You can include men if they
are interested and comfortable.
Thank you for women who read this post and
become ready to help men in their life.
Note
to men about the fundamental reason for the behaviour of today’s women:
Dear Men,
Women are too emotional. Sometimes they
are even needy, clingy, indecisive or doubtful. As women rights are forgiven
for many centuries, they actively take up the feminist role to fight for their
rights. Even today, in many cultures, they are fighting for their basic rights
like to study, to choose the guy they love, to go for a work, to pay the
groom’s family at the time of marriage, etc. They are not comfortable with
their own body and they are ashamed of their sexuality. They consider they are
cursed to be women because they are getting their period and they go through
pregnancy because it’s not gender fare. They consider feminine as weak. They
want to become like a man. Instead of thinking femininity as empowering
womanhood, many women misunderstood femininity as opposing the authentic
masculine. So they try to change you and prove to you there are superior because
they themselves still feel inferior. Now it’s changing. Please give them the
time to transform. Empower them. Kindly express them their emotional irritability
and the reasons (past, influence from father or other men). Get to know their
phase of the menstrual cycle to feel them more. Ask them to take some time for
themselves to heal the emotional pain that are coming up during their cycle to
reduce their physical pain and balance their mood.
Thank you for men who read this and ready
to help women in their life.
A
note to men and women:
Now please men and women work together on
their journey. I hope this post may help someone to have an amazing
relationship with his/her beloved. Because without enough knowledge, being girl
i myself freaked out when i got my first cycle. I have gone through severe
physical and emotional pain during my cycle. To have an enjoyable life on earth, men and women have to help each other
with patience. Love is patience. Love is detachment. Love is unconditional. Love
is fearlessness. Love just gives without expectations. There is no scale to
weigh love and give it to other in a balanced way. Some people tend to overgive,
it’s their way to express love. Some people are shy or reserved, it’s their way
of expressing love. Over-giving and being shy/reserved are just different ways
to express love. Please you
both respond to the problems instead of reacting immediately. Accept the
differences as complementary instead of thinking there is nothing common. Ready
for the change and explore each other’s world out of love. See life together as
"we", not individually. Respect/value each other’s opinion. You both
are independent as well as co-dependent. So dance together for happy life.
Thank you for your time to
read this post.
More links to know about
internal (emotional) process women go through during their monthly cycle, how
to embrace it to heal their emotional and physical pain, spiritual practise of
menstrual cycles in ancient times, magic of menstrual blood in arts, rituals,
relationships and fertilizing the earth and plants are given in the sidebar.
