Father-Daughter, Mother-Son relationship

We dont realize the role of opposite sex parent in their child's life especially at adolescence. Generally, we think father plays a major role in their son's life and mother plays a vital role in daughter's life. However, they both play equal role either in their son or daugther's life. The important thing is that opposite sex parent-child relationship acts as a template when it comes to relationship or when they choose their life-partner. In short, masculine and feminine in each of us have to be balanced. Get married with the masculine and feminine within you. Feminine is like moon, weather, nature - keep changing and dynamic. Masculine is like sun - slow and steady changing

Father-daughter relationship:
Some of the qualities girls can acquire when their father plays a positive role in their life: Respect, appreciate, approval, positive attitude towards feminine sexuality, embracing the masculine qualities (providing, steady, freedom, stability, strength, integrity, focus)
Qualities acquired due to negative role of their father: abusive, unavailabilty, neediness (trying to get attention)
For example: If the father respects his wife and daughter, the girl may grow with the positive thought that guys respect women and she finds a guy who can respect her and her feminine power. When the father approaches the feminine positively, she is proud of herself being a female. When the father is unavailable to his wife or daughter, she looks for love from someone else, leading to abusive relationships in her adolescence. When the father is unavailable, she looks for a man subconciously who is unavailable. She has a image in her mind about how the father should be and shouldnt be. Whatever she dont want from her father impacts her more, get mixed in her feelings and thoughts. She resists those qualities so much to the extent that she attracts similar man in her life. The sad thing is, even if she meets a guy who can love her genuinely, she will run away from it. Because its a new feeling for her, she never experienced. Due to the fear towards unknown or to face the new encounter, she get overwhelmed and run away from the guy who loves her so much. She again end up with the guy who has similar traits of her father, because she prefers safe to be in a situation which she got used from childhood.
Dear Fathers, its in your hand to bring up your girl to attract the man who appreicates her, loves her, repects her, listens to her and available to her. You may play a negative role without knowing, but that can break your lovely girl's future. Its the time to take a concious effort for better relationship.

Mother-son relationship:
Qualities a son can aquire from a positive mother: respecting feminine, understanding menstrual cycle, child birth, menopause, respecting women, expressing emotions, receiving love, discussing problems. In short, they touch their feminine side (emotion, intuition, receptive, patience, gentleness, listening, nurturing).
Qualities a son can acquire when their mother play a negative role: Examples: When the mom is controlling, dominating or trying to correct him, he wants to be free. When the mom is keep complaining. he is not ready to listen to his partner. When the mom is possessive, he fears the love from his partner that the love may come with expectations which he cant fulfil.

Hence both the parents have important role in their child life. You kids are separate adn complete being. Dont force your missings, unfulfilled desires, expectations on them. Let them to live freely, to choose what they love. Let them to make mistakes and learn. Whenever they need or they come to you, give your full heart. Be there for them and support them instead of changing them or accusing them for their mistakes.